Why things keep going wrong


So many of us find that things keep going wrong and they are often the same or similar things. The thing is that you are actually causing the problem by unconsciously getting in your own way but it is not your fault.

All the events and things that people have said to you from your earliest childhood and even when your mother was pregnant build up like the layers of an onion around who you really are, making it almost impossible for that real you inside to do what you really want.

Your unconscious mind has absorbed all those layers of input and it tries to keep you safe from danger, from criticism, from abuse, from failure. But all these layers of protection are what actually block you from achieving what you want.

The first step to solving this problem is to listen to what you say to yourself and pick up the patterns of limitation, and so often self abuse that you regularly repeat…

Things like “oh you are stupid” when you make a mistake, “I want to but I know I am not good enough”, “people always pick on me” etc etc etc!

The thing is to listen to what you think and reflect backwards to understand the patterns that have been controlling your unconscious beliefs. This gives you an insight into what your main blocks are and why your unconscious mind thinks that taking the next step is unsafe.

There is always a pattern and when you sort it you need to find a pattern-interrupt to cut through those layers. This I can do for you.

Of course if some of the stresses and blocks were significant you may need help to get rid of them so that your entire body knows that you are now safe, the past is over and you were empowered to make that change. This must happen first.

This is what I do in my hypnotherapy practice and it is astonishingly effective. It changes your life.

Why you self sabotage


You self sabotage because your unconscious is 90% of your mind. It’s the one in control. The voice in your head is your conscious mind – it’s not in control.

When you consciously want to do something… it might be change habits, overcome fears, sort of business stress, lose weight or many more changes…if your unconscious doesn’t agree with that idea, well guess what? Your unconscious will win every time.

And even before we’re born, we’re taking on ideas about the world and our place in it. Ideas to do with – we’re loved, wanted, (or not), the world is a welcoming, safe place, or not, etc. Then we’re born. And that can be a trauma in itself, which may teach us ‘I’m not safe!’ or whatever.

Until around we are around the age of 7 years old, we’re pretty much like a sponge. We take on other people’s ideas – ideas such as ‘You’re a nuisance. You’re unlovable. You’re stupid. You don’t matter. You’re trouble.’ Etc. These ideas go deep into our unconscious mind, and form the foundation for our life.

For example, if you take on the idea ‘I deserve to be treated badly, because I am not really worthwhile.’ Well, guess what? You’re set up to be the one who gets picked on, bullied, goes into abusive relationships etc. Change this underlying core program / belief to ‘I deserve to be treated with care and respect’, and your life changes.

That is interesting!

Also, if the unconscious doesn’t want you to do something, it wins. That’s what self-sabotage is about. Eg. if the unconscious has the program, ‘It’s not safe to be successful. It’s not safe to stand out,’ and you want to be successful, well guess what? It’s going to be very difficult to become successful.

Overwhelm causes autoimmune diseases


Overwhelm causes autoimmune diseases like MS, Thyroid, lupus, various allergic responses and many more because when a person becomes overwhelmed a short-term Fight, Flight, Freeze protective response is triggered.

If overwhelm continues the response disrupts the body’s hormonal balance and becomes the autoimmune disease.

Your body is attempting to destroy the thing causing the stress and escape and if is unable to do so… your body turns on itself harming itself instead.

This may have been when you were very small and can’t remember… but your body remembers.

What your body remembers can either kill you or it can heal you and it makes sense to sort out unresolved stress and see what was happening around the time that you began to develop symptoms.

To effectively change your body’s response your unconscious mind needs to know that the danger is over.

If you are seeing other health professionals like naturopaths and many others I can liaise with them to achieve much-improved outcomes… often remarkably rapidly.

Sometimes autoimmune diseases seem to run in families. However when you stop and look at the family, it may be that the stressful or overwhelming situation is what has run in the family.

In any case it may well be worth trying to see whether a 3 session hypnotic program can help resolve the problem. Just give me a phone call to ask how I can help. I am always delighted to answer questions and explore how I can help you.

And I have successfully worked with clients all over Australia and internationally using a very easy to use videoconference that is available from your computer or tablet, you only need email, earphones and a video camera in your computer or tablet and they all do nowadays.

 

Autoimmune disease is caused when a person becomes overwhelmed, triggering a short-term protective response disrupting the body’s hormonal balance and becomes the autoimmune disease.

Overwhelm can be a killer


When stuff is overwhelming it is a bit like blowing up a balloon – eventually it bursts under the strain and overwhelm can be a killer.

What actually happens is that when too much is on at once for any one of many reasons, part of your brain which does all the filing, the hippocampus, gets overloaded and stops filing things properly.

An overloaded hippocampus calls in another part of the brain that acts as a security guard and triggers fight, flight, freeze response affecting your vagus nerve and your pituitary gland.

Stuff that has not been properly filed goes on running through your mind all the time and even all night interfering with your sleep. You may think logically that you have dealt with it, but your body is still overwhelmed and does not know it is over.

The continual stress, or overwhelm may be a small business person coping with years of long hours and uncertain income, it may be the result of bullying or domestic abuse – either physical or emotional, it may be a new baby who cries a lot when Mum is already exhausted. It is all harming your health and you need help for your unconscious mind to understand that it is over, it is past.

Stress, anxiety, depression and anger are an energy that is held in the cells in your body, not simply in your brain. You know that when you feel like this you feel it all over. This can be a killer or at least make you very ill.

To get this stored and dealt with two things must happen.

  1. You must feel empowered and your whole body needs to know that it is over
  2. and you are safe.

I do this very safely and quickly using a 3-step hypnosis process where you are able to release all that harmful energy from your cells so that you can get on with your life.

This is a cellular and unconscious mind process that works with hypnosis. The traditional approach of cognitive therapy is working with your conscious logical mind that is not capable of allowing your cells to release the energy effectively.

I can help you so call me if you need me or simply book in below. I am also happy to just have a chat if you have questions.

Our thoughts affect our weight


How do our thoughts affect our weight? I think most of us have discovered that weight management is much more complex than just energy in and energy out. Our minds have a huge influence.

We evolved living a much simpler life where our major threats were cold and starvation. Especially for women it was important to store fat so that babies could be fed and our species survive.

When our mind believes that we are under some sort of threat it responds by either insulating us (most common), or preparing us to run to safety.

If we diet, our unconscious mind minds and our bodies believe we are starving so when the diet finishes, we put on even more weight to protect us. That’s why we have the yo-yo effect of diets.

90% of our mind is unconscious and it is definitely the boss! It is not possible to lose weight long term when the unconscious mind rejects it.

Obesity is usually a response by the unconscious mind to insulate and protect the person from problems like stress and anxiety usually caused by bullying, abuse, rejection, domestic or family violence, a sudden accident or similar.

The trick is finding when the problems started and what else was happening then and clearing this. Then the diet and exercise can be effective and I refer people to a colleague, Jo Wilson who is a personal trainer and nutrition expert. Of course if you already go to a trainer or naturopath, I can collaborate with them

Clearing the real reason for the anxiety must involve the unconscious mind and that is best done with a very special hypnotic process called the Richards Trauma Process or TRTP. This is very effective and remarkably. You can be free of anxiety in less than 1 month and then losing your excess weight is much easier.

The more traditional approach to relieving anxiety use cognitive behavioural therapy which only involves the conscious logical mind, can re-traumatise the person and is much less effective and much, much slower.

It’s all about heart


I was watching an advert for a TV program about a boxer… not my thing but the statement “it’s all about heart” really resonated with me and I felt a deep YES welling up inside me.

When we really want to achieve something, we engage our heart, our passion… it’s all about heart.

I so often see clients who come to me depressed, anxious and/or stressed without passion because for a variety of reasons their “heart” has been suppressed or even broken by events in their lives.

My job is to help them beat the cause of their problems and find their power and rebuild their heart. I do this by using hypnosis to let them create a “theatre of the mind” or an imaginary movie scene where they are in charge, they are strong and powerful and they regain their passion and their heart.

When people are severely stressed or stressed over a long period they activate the fight, flight, freeze mechanism. Fight brings out anger in people but freeze is more sinister because many people remain in a traumatic situation because they have frozen and no longer have the heart to get out.

It is wonderful to see the change when a nervous “mouse” comes in and a strong calm person leaves in less than a month. This change happens reliably in only 3-4 visits plus a follow up in 2-3 months time.

This is the change that happens when people are able to rebuild their heart and their passion for life. It is the biggest privilege to be able to help people in this way

Sometimes the client is an adult who was abused as a child; a woman who has been a victim of domestic violence… or sometimes a man in the same situation.

Business people are often stressed over many months or years and this has a severe effect on their mental health and they are some of the last to ask for help.

Children or adults who are being bullied also often freeze and cannot escape from their situation, gradually becoming more and more depressed.

Don’t allow it to continue. All you need to do is to give me a phone call or go onto my website. We can work together to get this fixed easily and without dredging up problems in detail. Just do it!

As humans we are hardwired on a quest for safety


As humans we are hardwired on a quest for safety and we often use others to help us feel safe. When we don’t feel safe our minds and our bodies are in defensive state, ready to run, fight or freeze. When people are in a position when they can’t fight and run (flight) they freeze.

Very abused women and children are often frozen and this is why they do not leave their situation… they are frozen and have lost the ability to run. Fire fighters, the military and other emergency personnel are also often in this position – they can’t just leave. In this situation, people either partially shut down or they disassociate so they can appear to be functioning while a large part of their mind is frozen to prevent their pain.

This shut down often leads to the frustrated body looking to anything to fight and turning on part of itself. “Lets attack the thyroid gland to see if it helps” or some other part of the body, which is what causes autoimmune disease.

The special hypnotic process I use, called TRTP, allows you to very safely “fight” the cause of the problem in an imaginary movie scene and this both empowers you and also lets your unconscious mind know that it is over and you are safe.

If you have suffered some sort of stress, trauma or abuse, the change in you after this treatment is remarkable. It takes 3-4 hypnotic sessions plus a follow up after 2-3 months.

All the world experts on trauma say the same thing. A person needs to feel empowered; they need to know that it is over and that they are safe.

In Australia there are over 2 million people who have been diagnosed with PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and very many more suffering from anxiety, stress and depression or having undiagnosed PTSD. This massively affects their health as well as their outlook on life.

If you are one of this group, stop this suffering and let me help you transform your life. Transform is not an exaggeration! I suffered from PTSD in the past and doing TRTP transformed my life which is why I decided to do the extra training and specialise in this area.

Overwhelm is insidious


Overwhelm is insidious because it affects your hippocampus  and triggers a protective response by your amygdala, which acts like a security guard, and you find yourself in the Fight, Flight or Freeze response. Your entire metabolism is disrupted to allow your body to cope with an emergency and you may not return to calm.

Some people remain in the hyper alert mode for years and this is post traumatic stress disorder or PTSD.

You may become overwhelmed at work, by too much attention, by an accident or sudden shock or even by severe trauma of various types.

This overwhelm shows up in so many areas of your life and it is seriously damaging.

Whatever the cause, when you get overwhelmed a small part of your brain called the hippocampus has too much to deal with at once. This is the part of your brain that acts as your librarian to file and store memories properly.

 

To recover from Trauma two things must happen:

  • The body has to know it is over
  • The unconscious mind must be empowered.

There are two very different approaches to treating PTSD, Anxiety and Depression.

  • The traditional way uses cognitive therapy, which works with the conscious mind. Some psychologists also use some hypnosis but with a very different approach to TRTP. This approach does not work as effectively as working directly with the unconscious mind.
  • TRTP – the Richards trauma process – see it in the short video link here

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_UtGn0_wxps

These websites are also informative.

http://quitquickadelaide.com/severe-stress-and-trauma/what-is-the-richards-trauma-process

http://therichardstraumaprocess.com/

I use a special hypnotic process called TRTP because it is fast and effective and avoids continually re-traumatising you.

Trauma is stored in the subconscious mind and in the body. TRTP works where the trauma is stored, and addresses it there.

I am one of a group of around 100 practitioners around Australia who use TRTP and we undergo weekly continual professional development in this area.

If you have stress, anxiety, depression or PTSD you can feel very comfortable and confident that you are safe with me.

Because I have had PTSD myself after an entire series of traumatic events I understand what it is like and when TRTP transformed my life, I decided to go ahead and do the additional specialist trauma training.

Your body remembers


Your body remembers all your feelings because they are energy and every cell in your body has those feelings with most clients complaining about stressThey smoke because they are stressed,

Overweight people complain about stress and in a very great many cases the reason they are overweight is because they are insulating and protecting themselves from stress.

Those with autoimmune disease almost invariably have some major stress or event in their past. At the time they and their body wished they could destroy the thing causing the stress, so the body turned on itself harming itself instead.

This may have been when they were very small and can’t remember… but their body remembers.

Feelings are energy and every cell in your body has that feeling – It is not part of your logical mind. Feelings, emotions, habits all release peptides from the brain that go to every cell. No wonder negative emotions make us ill.

The thing is that your mind can either kill you or it can heal you and it makes sense to sort this out.

Over 2 million Australians have been diagnosed with PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) and there are many more people suffering from stress, anxiety or depression.

So many people are not really ill, but they are not well either and in many cases unresolved stress is the real cause and I can fix this easily with hypnosis.

Most of us are able to cope with stress but some get overwhelmed  When major or prolonged stress are overwhelming the memory of the stress is NEVER stored. 

These people can’t cope or move on. They remain in a highly stressed state sometimes for many years. Their life is controlled by the past and they never feel safe

Because stress is stored in the body, the logical mind can never fix it. Which is why Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is very slow and often does not work.

The cause is OVERWHELM. This happens in the brain – in our hippocampus

The hippocampus is our brains’ “librarian” and it files information in pre-frontal cortex. When it is overwhelmed things are not properly stored and this sets off the Amygdala or “security guard” to trigger your sympathetic nervous system which is all about fight, flight, freeze

To fix PTSD two things are needed:

  • The entire body needs to realise it is OVER. This is not something that the logical mind can do – it must be a whole body response.
  • The person’s unconscious mind needs to feel EMPOWERED so that they do not become overwhelmed again.

Hypnosis is able to repair this with 3 vital steps:

  1. Remove the limiting beliefs and discover their authentic self – the empowered person
  2. The empowered person pulls the fuse out of the stressful or traumatic event without revisiting the event itself
  3. Then they see a future free from the shackles of the past. Its over, you are safe, you can plan the future.

If this is you, someone in your family or a friend, just book in to see me or phone me for a chat on 8365 9513.

Stress builds up in you like blowing up a balloon


Stress builds up in you like blowing up a balloon.

Then you relax and let the balloon down… this is normal…

But if there is already a lot of stress or anxiety from the past, the balloon gradually fills up and possibly gets over full.

There are a variety of ways to release the stress. Playing with kids, working out at the gym, walking, cuddling a pet are all healthy ways. Releasing stress gently is very important.

Some people use anger to release their stress. Others freeze to avoid going out and getting more. Some try to anaesthetise themselves with alcohol, smoking or various drugs.

Some people never learn to release stress gently because things have happened in their lives that prevent this.

Excess stress builds up as anxiety, depression and in many cases your body may even turn on itself causing illnesses like autoimmune disease and sometimes even cancer because it suppresses your immune system.

How we fix it

All you need is to IMAGINE so that your unconscious mind knows that:

  • The past is over
  • You are safe
  • You have the POWER to change.

So I talk to your unconscious mind to let that happen.

If you are coping with

  • Too much coming in at once
  • It may be work stress or overwork, cash-flow issues
  • Accident, illness, something happening to a family member
  • Perhaps marriage, divorce, moving, retirement or even having a baby
  • Teenagers with exams, bullying, etc

Let’s just fix it!

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