Changes are a challenge
I think we all sometimes find that some things and especially changes are a challenge, I certainly do. Clients often send me emails after they have been to see me… sometimes years later telling me how their lives have changed because I helped them overcome some of their challenges.
I really appreciate hearing from you and how you are going however because of privacy issues I don’t share your story. Because of this I have decided to set up a closed Facebook Group.
I would love to hear from clients, past clients and also get questions from people who are interested in managing their mind more effectively and/or overcoming blocks and problems and just generally keep in touch. You can share stories that I can’t and if you have benefited from my help you may feel able to tell others about it so they can also.
This is the address of the group https://www.facebook.com/groups/2036062080003670/?ref=br_rs. I am not inviting people on Facebook to join… just people on the newsletter list.
I have found setting this up a challenge. The settings are not the same as a Facebook page so there has been more to learn. The header needs a lot more tweaking yet but I am getting the hang of it slowly.
Some things are a challenge and although this can be frustrating, it is also very good for us. Our unconscious minds do not like change. Its job is to keep us safe and what it knows is safe… after all we are still alive so it must be safe. Change might be dangerous even though logically we know it will be an improvement.
That is something to think about. What do you want to change but don’t get around to, or you procrastinate about it because “it might be a better time tomorrow”. Resistance to change is about your unconscious mind wanting to keep you safe.
This section is a library of all the (mainly) weekly newsletters about how your mind can either kill you or it can heal you.
Resolve stress, anxiety, depression now
Resolve stress, anxiety, depression now. When these hit for whatever reason, whether the trigger is from your work, family, relationships or any combination including something you can’t define – they affect your whole body from head to toe. Every cell in your body is affected. This makes you ill if it goes on.
When it is something long partially buried, the physical effects can be devastating. Research shows people suffering with long-term stress, anxiety and/or depression have an increased risk of developing cancer and autoimmune diseases.
The World Health Organization predicts that by 2020, anxiety and depression will be the second leading reason in the world causing premature death or disability.
Mainstream medicine’s reaction is to jump to prescription pills designed to make us “feel happy and normal” again. But the drugs don’t address the cause of the problem, they fail to work for a great many people, or have dangerous side effects.
The thing is that anxiety, depression and stress are controlled by your unconscious mind while mainstream psychology, counselling and psychotherapy use try to address the problems using your conscious mind. If this does work it takes months or even years and takes you back over the causes of the problems, re-traumatising you in many cases and cost much more if long-term help is needed.
I use something very different. This is The Richards Trauma Process (TRTP), which allows you to access your unconscious mind using your imagination and the theatre of the mind. This is rapid, gentle and avoids the re-traumatising of the other psych processes. It only takes 3-5 sessions and it transforms your life.
I certainly know personally how well this works because I had many years of stress and abuse leaving me with PTSD and breast cancer. Then I met Judith Richards, the remarkable woman who developed TRTP and after I had the treatment myself I also did the training because it was so much more effective than all the psychology, NLP and hypnotherapy had had done and was qualified to do for my clients.
TRTP totally changed my life and I see it changing that of my clients. I also adapted my Quit Smoking treatment to include some of the TRTP techniques and make it even more effective
If you want to know more about getting help for any of the following
- Stress, anxiety or depression
- Business stress
- Weight problems
- Phobias or
- To change habits like smoking, biting nails, etc (not major drug addiction)
Please call me on 08 8365 9513 and ask questions or book straight in using the black “Book your time NOW” button which takes you to a page with a calendar where you can choose a day and time that suits you.
Why New Year resolutions so often fail
The big problem with New Year resolutions is that our Unconscious mind, not our conscious mind, controls 90% of what we do and it is the boss.
Our unconscious mind’ job is to keep us safe. What we know and have done for years is safe… we have survived.
Change is scary and we are intrinsically afraid of change. We need to stay safe as our number one priority.m
The other thing is that our unconscious mind is like a toddler (or a puppy). Let it get away with something – just once – and this leaves the door open to keeping on doing that, to revert to the old unwanted behaviour.
You end up consciously behaving like a strict parent trying to control your determined unconscious mind and your unconscious mind throws tantrums to try to get you to let it revert back to the “safe” old behaviour.
In my house I am finding this on two man levels. Once is with being consistent in setting the boundaries for my puppy and yes I am taking her to dog school… her third term starts in just over a week. She is now 9 months old and that is equivalent to a young rebellious teenager… I noticed that she is very like my 14year old grandson as she tests her boundaries
My other challenge is something I thought I had resolved several years ago – sugary deserts, chocolate and Champagne. It is pretty nearly under control again but Christmas and all the celebrations before Christmas was the ‘just once” that caused some issues.
New Year is a great time to reset your various boundaries however you need to be aware of the issues involved.
- Avoid changing too much at once it will just cause stress. One thing at a time works best.
- Setting up some regular affirmations abut the behaviour you are changing and repeating them regularly is a form of self-hypnosis that works well, especially last thing at night and when you first wake up.
- If you really feel blocked by something you can ask your unconscious mind to let you know what you need to change, just as you go to sleep at night. Have a pen and paper handy to jot down the answer you may get a 3am.
Of course if you really are blocked give me a call and come in for help.
How do your Christmas food choices affect your body?
If you are anything like me you have been caught up in a flurry of eating and drinking for the past few weeks and next weekend it may get even more interesting so how do your food choices affect your body?
For my family, Christmas started on Sunday 17th. My son was in Adelaide for the weekend after several years in England, which is where his family still are. He returns there on Friday. So all the Cannon family went to my daughter’s house bringing lots of wonderful festive food and drink.
I cooked a turkey, my daughter prepared a wonderful range of vegies, someone else brought a whole smoked trout, and another ham. Then there were the deserts and we did have plenty of good things to drink.
It was a wonderful day with an amazing array of great food. It was served buffet style so we could choose what and how much we wanted to eat. I find the buffet style is easier because I do not want to put on weight after taking 15 kgs off this year and feeling much better for it.
I confess to eating too much but with healthy options and I came home to a pot of peppermint tea so I feel great today.
Christmas Day will be much more difficult because a different side of my family servers the dinner up and like so many of us, Mum filled me with enormous guilt if I do not clear my plate every time.
Managing Holiday excess is a challenge especially when we also want to be enjoying summer and wearing bathers. UMM…
I do have a hypnosis program for weight loss and if this is a challenge to you please either call me or just book in and start changing the way your unconscious mind thinks about food and food choices. You do have the power to change your automatic responses to food.
Your unconscious mind is the one in control
Your unconscious mind is 90% of your mind and it is the boss, much more powerful than your tiny conscious mind. It’s the one in control. The voice in your head is your the conscious mind – it’s not in control.
When you consciously want to do something, like change a habit or lose weight, and the unconscious doesn’t agree with that idea, well guess what? Your unconscious will win every time.
And even before we’re born, we’re taking on ideas about the world and our place in it. Ideas to do with – we’re loved, wanted, (or not), the world is a welcoming, safe place, or not, etc. Then we’re born. And that can be a trauma in itself, which may teach us ‘I’m not safe!’ or whatever.
Until around we are around the age of 7 years old, we’re pretty much like a sponge. We take on other people’s ideas – ideas such as ‘You’re a nuisance. You’re unlovable. You’re stupid. You don’t matter. You’re trouble’ etc. These ideas go into our unconscious mind, and form the foundation for our life.
For example, if you take on the idea ‘I deserve to be treated badly, because I am not really worthwhile.’ Well, guess what? You’re set up to be the one who gets picked on, bullied, goes into abusive relationships etc. Change this underlying core program / belief to ‘I deserve to be treated with care and respect’, and your life changes.
That is interesting!
Also, if the unconscious doesn’t want you to do something, it wins. That’s what self-sabotage is about. For example, if your unconscious has the program, ‘It’s not safe to be successful. It’s not safe to stand out,’ and you want to be successful, well guess what? It’s going to be very difficult to become successful.
The way that I help people is to allow them to communicate with their unconscious mind which is easy when you relax then strongly imagine what you want to change. And the results are remarkable and rapid without taking people back over traumatic events like traditional treatments. And it is permanent.
If you have a problem with anxiety, stress, procrastination, weight or a habit like smoking just come and see me to sort it out and make your life so much better.
I also have gift vouchers if you are looking for a Christmas gift idea for a loved one
The pressures of Christmas are here again
We all have a range of expectations about Christmas and these are often not met. Instead Christmas can be about increased stress, anxiety and depression.
It is a very expensive and exhausting time of year and the shops go crazy trying to start your spending increasingly early and increasing the amounts. In fact I apologise for sending this early because I don’t want to even think about Christmas until mid December but am forced to.
An if you run your own business, you may also need to cope with the Christmas shutdowns and the impact of that on cashflow.
Christmas can be a stressful time as many families are not totally about supportive love. A surprising number of families have their dark secrets about who bullied and even abused other family members. Yet media about the love and joy of being together bombards us.
In many families we end up with a bunch of people cooped up together expecting a wonderful loving time. Grandma has no idea why the tensions are there but there is lots of guilt around not upsetting her. The problem can be that while we can choose our friends we can’t choose either our relatives or our in-laws.
And of course your real family can be about the people you love most rather than the ones with the same genetic tree.
If you are one of the many people who have to cope with sharing Christmas with family members who abused you there is time to come and see me so that I can help you to pull the fuse out of those resulting emotions so that they just feel like historical facts.
I help your unconscious mind to deal with the problems from the past and the perpetrators in your wonderful imagination, leaving you feeling safe and relaxed to cope with the rest of your family and enjoy your day.
When you sort out any past bullying and abuse, it also has an amazing impact on the rest of your life because what happens in childhood and especially in our families sets us up for lack of confidence, higher stress and anxiety levels and being bullied throughout our lives until we defuse it.
Who is the driver in your life?
Do you consciously drive your own life and make your own decisions or are you actually in the passengers seat? Or do you go through this fast-paced world feeling as if you are being dragged through your weeks on the back of a wild horse? Do you rush from one thing to another until you end up back at home in the evening with just enough time to wind down and go to sleep, waking up the next morning to begin the wild ride once more.
The result is stress, anxiety and overwhelm.
STOP and ask why, who is really dragging you? How much of this is about the expectations that other people have put on us since our earliest childhood. How much is about pleasing other people? How much is about meeting your real needs?
You may be really happy racing along and that is great if it is YOU making that decision. However it is always a good idea to take some time out to reflect on whether you are truly in control.
If you are stressed and overwhelmed your lifestyle may not be the best for you and while we almost all have the necessity to bring in the income we need to survive and to support our dependents we can review how we do this and the choices we make.
Continual stress, anxiety, overwhelm and lack of sleep affect our health, reduce our energy, affect our relationships and push us into dependencies on food, drink or other comfort activities.
Cutting out the comfort activities can lead to serious problems where the comfort is actually the crutch that is keeping your overwhelm under control.
If any of this sounds like you please call me to see how I can help.
I spent much of my life on a treadmill at other people’s beck and call… parents, husbands, kids, bosses, the budget and the required lifestyle. I’ve been there as a daughter, wife, parent, breadwinner, employee, business owner and employer (and that is a huge responsibility for those other families as well).
Eventually I ended up with Breast Cancer, a double Mastectomy and an opportunity to stop and ask how I got there. What to do next? I chose to go back to my roots in neurophysiology, do lots of extra training and retraining so that I am now able to help others… hopefully before they get to that stage of massive overwhelm and illness.
If you want to explore getting off the treadmill earlier than I did or just need help to stop and ask the questions:
- Who is really dragging you?
- How much is about pleasing other people?
- How much is about meeting your real needs?
Then call me and ask for help.
Learn to manage your own unconscious mind!
This Saturday, 11th November and also Saturday 18th between 1.00pm and 4.30pm I am running a Self Hypnosis and Trance States workshop at the WEA in 223 Angas St, Adelaide. I do this each term and you will learn an enormous of self-help techniques during this 7 hours of training.
I’d love to see you there. Book in at 8223 1979
Your powerful beliefs, thoughts and fears
Your beliefs, thoughts and fears are powerful, often damaging and you know that we all see things differently – which explains lots of disagreements of course. So how true are they? How did your develop your beliefs, thoughts and fears and more importantly are they helping you?
The thing is that these are largely taught to you by those around you… family, peers, teachers and many others.
In fact we are really a lot like onions with the person we really are in the middle of many layers of accumulated ideas, beliefs, habits, fears and more.
Many of the problems my clients come with are issues that are made so much worse by what they believe, the way that they look at the situation and how they limit themselves.
Many of the habits they want to change are also the result of habits copied from others, even imposed on them by others and the initial beliefs that this activity is going to be helpful, fun or even asserting independence (in the case of some habits started as teenagers).
You can choose to stop, look at some of your beliefs, thoughts and fears and why and how you developed them. Then decide whether some of these are helpful or unhelpful to you right now and how you can go about changing – if you wish.
You may find that simply reframing or choosing to change the way the way you think, believe or behave can do some of this… however
The thing is that deep-seated beliefs, fears, anxieties and trauma are held in your body, not just in your conscious mind, which is why they often seem irrational. And you can’t consciously overcome them.
Two things must happen to change and heal. You need to be both empowered and every cell in your body must know that you are safe. This can be achieved in only 3-4 life transforming sessions using TRTP.
If you or someone you know is suffering from deep-seated fears, anxieties, unexplained anger or phobias that are limiting your life just STOP IT! Call me or simply book in to sort it out.
Changes are a challengeI think we all sometimes find that some things and especially changes are a challenge, I certainly do. Clients often send me emails after they have been to see me… sometimes years later telling me how their lives have changed because I helped them overcome some of their challenges.
I really appreciate hearing from you and how you are going however because of privacy issues I don’t share your story. Because of this I have decided to set up a closed Facebook Group.
I would love to hear fro...
LibraryThis section is a library of all the (mainly) weekly newsletters about how your mind can either kill you or it can heal you...
Resolve stress, anxiety, depression nowResolve stress, anxiety, depression now. When these hit for whatever reason, whether the trigger is from your work, family, relationships or any combination including something you can’t define - they affect your whole body from head to toe. Every cell in your body is affected. This makes you ill if it goes on.
When it is something long partially buried, the physical effects can be devastating. Research shows people suffering with long-term stress, anxiety and/or depression have an increase...