Changing your habits in the New Year


Changing your habits is a often a focus in the New Year.  It is a strange time of the year when people build up all sorts of expectations and world wide there is a sense of anticipation and curiosity about what a new year will bring.

For many it is a time for reviewing the past year and deciding to start the New Year the way you want it to continue, to make resolutions and plans and hopefully a strategy to carry these new plans out.

If you are planning changes for this year, do you have a support structure to help you and some accountability? Starting something “tomorrow” doesn’t work because tomorrow never comes.

Your brain is a wonderful computer and like other computers, it gets some very dud software and incorrect data over the years. This dud software and harmful ideas and memories (data) are responsible for your bad habits, anxiety, depression, illness and other problems in your life.

You can change dud software and defuse then file away harmful memories. I use a very effective hypnotic process that lets you to update the software and data that is no longer helpful to you so that you can move forward and life the life that you want.

I am back in the office today and busy seeing clients again – lots of smokers at present but also many wanting other help with stress, anxiety, depression, weight and autoimmune disease.

If you would like to see me either book straight in at one of the webpages below or else call me direct on 08 8365 9513 and leave a clear message if I am busy with a client.

Is Your Christmas Joy or Stress?


Your brain is a wonderful supercomputer and your mind is the user.  Like any computer it only works as well as the software that runs it and during your lifetime you will have picked up some pretty dud software… we all do. 

Our software so often holds us back, traps us in bad habits we want to quit but can’t and often locks in emotions, memories and hurts that seem to be fresh in our minds even though they happened years ago.

And then comes Christmas!

The thing about Christmas is that it comes with huge expectations, plus financial stress and all our old programs tend to surface.

We can choose our friends but we can’t choose our relatives and we definitely can’t choose our in-laws.  Christmas get togethers can trigger issues, emotions, anxiety or even anger instead of the joy we are told to expect.

Sometimes those old issues feel like we are trapped in a net we can’t get out of.  If this is you, there is an answer… just call me!

You CAN change habits and step through stress, anxiety, depression and even strong reactions to certain people very gently, safely and surprisingly fast using a hypnotic process that has extraordinary results.

Most habits are easy.  Things like smoking are often controlled by a part of your mind that still thinks that smoking keeps you safely part of the peer group and hasn’t realised that you are no longer 16 years old.  That bit of software can be changed very easily… usually one session.

Stress, anxiety depression, nightmares and even strong reactions to certain people take 3-4 sessions plus a three-month follow up.

After all that doom and gloom, I wish you a wonderful Christmas. 

If you have any problems I will be in the office until Friday and back on Jan 9th.

This post is about International Recognition


I was recently approached to contribute to a round-up pf International Communication experts to write a post about the importance of being assertive.  That is NOT aggressive and not being over-ridden – just assertive.  So important.

Assertive communication is essential to reach sensible outcomes and avoid the winner /loser syndrome that is so common. One person keeps giving in and ends up resentful, often leading on to being the victim of bullying “for the sake of peace”. Peace never comes unless the outcomes are good for both sides.

I work with people who have been bullied, abused both physically and sexually, raped and generally disrespected. These people were never taught to be assertive.

From their earliest years in most cases, their opinions were ignored or rejected as not important. Until they know that the past is over, they are safe and they feel empowered they merely move on from one bully to another.

The wonderful hypnotic process that I use empowers them to safely stand up to their past abusers, get really angry in a trance and get all their past emotions out so that the feel safe, they know it is over and they remain empowered so that it can never happen again. They learn to be assertive and to remain safe.

Here is the link to the entire article

Blaming attempts to discharge emotional pain


Blaming attempts to discharge emotional pain that you are feeling. It is time to stop and question who you are blaming and why.

You may very well be correct that the person you are blaming was the cause of your stress or trauma but if you want to get rid of your resulting emotional pain, you need to work it though properly so that you get the benefit of healing.

Your emotions are yours and no one can cause them. The person can be responsible for causing a situation or even a trauma but how you feel is up to you. And yes… some emotional pain may be too much to discharge without help.

Emotional pain is stored in your body and your cells hold that anger, fear, pain, frustration and bewilderment there as buried stress or unexplained anger deep inside … sometimes for years.

It doesn’t go away until you release it. Blame does not release it.

When you bury negative emotions like anger or fear they can turn on your own body, causing harm to your immune system with many harmful consequences including serious illness like autoimmune disease and cancer.

Until you release that negative emotion and the cause you won’t return to a calm and happy life.

Plus when something has left you angry and blaming your logical brain is partially switched off so you no longer think clearly and it is all about the negative emotion – you are not healing or leaving it behind.

Many people who come to me for weight problems are actually holding onto buried stress or unexplained anger deep inside. When they release that buried pain, their body no longer needs to hold the protective fat.

I use a simple 3-step process that steps you through to the other side of stress, anxiety, depression and “stuff that happens” and it has extraordinary results… just like that… 3 -4 sessions plus a follow up later… just confirming there are no other problems.

The negative emotions released… just like that… 3-4 sessions. Call me to ask more questions

What happens when you are stressed


What happens when you are stressed whether a trauma or continual stress and you have reached a limit?

It might be a major accident or problem?

Or when you are continually stressed and you feel you have reached a limit? A bit like a balloon getting over full and bursting.

Both have the same effect…

The part of your brain, the hippocampus, that acts like a librarian, filing, cataloguing and putting information and memories away (in your pre-frontal cortex) freaks out and your memories don’t get stored properly.

Those stresses and memories keep current; they might keep you awake at night and you sometimes “go on about things” that happened years ago

Plus you have a part of your brain called the Amygdala that acts as your security guard and moves you into fight, flight or freeze mode when your librarian is overwhelmed.

And this affects your entire body and especially your digestive system. Your logical conscious mind is unable to sort this out and calm you down because this all happens in your unconscious mind.

If you or your family had problems when you were young, especially before you reached the age of seven, you grew up with an overload so that it takes less stress or trauma to upset you as an adult.

That is why in any difficult or dangerous situation, some people sail through and settle back to calm very quickly and others don’t.

So very many people have had problems when they were young especially with bullying or abuse and they often don’t realise that they have never known calm or really felt safe.

If you are like this you have been like living with your security guard always on alert, never fully relaxing and affecting your digestive system and your hormonal balance.

Getting rid of this built up stress is simply life changing and this is rapid and very safe with a special type of hypnosis called the Richards Trauma Process which I trained in.

Your unconscious mind is so powerful


Your unconscious mind controls 90 percent of what you think and do and yet other people programmed most of this from your birth and through your childhood.

When you frequently repeat a thought or behaviour that trains the neurones in your brain to build more connections and you make actual physical changes to your brain. Are they the changes you really want?

So is what you think about and all your long-term habits helping you or could it be harming or even killing you? It is worth stopping and taking the time to think about this. What thoughts and habit are you training now?

Many of your own thoughts may be self-abusive and very different to what you would say to your best friend. We all tend to put ourselves down, usually unconsciously.

Much of this has been learned from older siblings, friends and parents from our earliest child hood.

I sometimes catch my grandchildren telling their younger siblings that they are stupid etc – so harmful because it becomes a habit for the younger child to say this as self-abuse as they grow up.

People do not always realise that they matter in this world. You are a person who matters so it is very important that you take proper care of yourself and get rid of both harmful habits and also harmful thoughts.

It is surprising how many people do not really value themselves enough to take proper care of their habits like smoking, drinking, food choices and many other choices.

Quite a lot of overweight people are actually unconsciously insulating themselves from some problem that they have not understood enough to fix.

The thing is that your mind has the power to change your life, to heal you if this is needed and even to kill you if you do not feel that you really matter in this world.

Your stories weigh more than party goodies


Ask yourself how much of your weight is caused by that self-abusive bully that lurks within your mind? Your stories put on more weight than party goodies.

As we look at ourselves out of our winter wraps many of us find that our bodies have very sensibly insulated themselves by a Kilo or two.

Some of us bring out the abusive bully that lurks in our minds. “OMG… you look so fat!” etc. etc. If that is you STOP NOW!

What you think about is what your unconscious mind thinks you want so think thin instead.

Tell yourself great, warmer weather is coming and I will lose that insulation. It will be easy and natural. Your body automatically changes your “quilt” thickness as the weather changes… if you let it and you avoid that self abuse.

The stories you tell yourself matter because it is about the belief or fantasy behind those stories.

Someone else
with the same weight and body shape as you but with a
different belief would have told a very different
story. They would have stopped that bully quick smart.

I heard a wonderful example of this recently. A woman was hiking with a friend. They encountered a fence and the friend started to climb through it. The first woman panicked and stopped her.

When they sorted things out it turned out that her friend had grown up on a farm. Her belief was “fences are to keep animals in.” As a city bred girl, the first woman’s belief was “fences are to keep people out.”

The story could have been about how angry she was that she couldn’t get close to the pretty pond because it was fenced in. The friend’s story would have been about her pleasant visit to that lovely little pond.

The difference was just a story.  Only the fence was real.

Always keep your ear open for that self-abusive bully that lurks within. And question those beliefs behind the distressing stories you
tell yourself.

It may be hard to give them up even if they no longer fit the circumstances of your life.

It is harder to give up your beliefs than the extra party goodies

Choose between bitter or better


OK, the choice between bitter or better may sound like a simplification but you always have a choice about how you look at situations.

Going over and over an issue in your mind increases your pain. It builds more connections between your neurones and it actually causes physical changes in your brain and makes that issue worse.

The thing is that stress, anger, anxiety, depression and bitterness all make you ill.

They are a bit like a balloon that goes on getting bigger over time as you blow in more until it bursts. And that “burst” causes actual harm to your body as it triggers autoimmune disease, allergies and cancer

Do you go back to normal after something big happens? Does a balloon regain its original shape when you let it down?

Are you back to normal? Ok you seem fine, you are back at work, you are feeling much more tired than usual, but there are things to do. You must be over it by now!

But you are not over it. Inside your body keeps the score. Your cells are still holding that fear, pain and bewilderment.

Whether it is sudden or a slow build up of stress, that stress is still there buried as stress, anxiety or unexplained anger deep inside. It doesn’t go away until you release it.

In major and in prolonged stress your memory of the stress is NEVER 
stored.

I remember before I was treated for my almost lifelong PTSD it felt like I was trapped in tentacles of anxiety, I was allergic to everything and as soon as my head hit the pillow at night my mind raced.

My former husband told me once that if I didn’t have something to worry about I would worry about that and he was right.

The thing that finally tipped me over the edge was a diagnosis of breast cancer and that is when I seriously looked for help. I went back to my original training in neurophysiology and I started retraining as a hypnotherapist.

Along the way I met a wonderful hypnotherapist called Judith Richards who treated me online using Skype to return me to calm so that my past is just a story, no longer stressful.

That started yet another training program with Judith so that I am now a stress and trauma specialist and I can help other people like I was, return to calm often for the first time in their life.

Without treatment your stress, depression or anxiety is never over:

  • Your brain was unable to file the difficult memories properly so that…
  • You never feel safe… you keep “going on” about it in your mind
  • You may remain in a highly stressed state sometimes for many years!
  • Your life is controlled by your past that was not filed away
  • You never feel really safe or calm inside

Because your stress is stored in your body, your logical mind can never fix it. The hypnotic process I use works because you are able to use your unconscious mind to rewrite your past and file it away safely.

This is safe, easy and you will be back to calm in 3-4 sessions. And I follow you up after 3 months, just to check.

Your mind is so powerful


Your mind is so powerful and knowing a little bit about how your brain and your physiology works really helps you to manage it. And it also helps you to manage your health and your emotions.

Understanding some neurophysiology makes sense:

  • Your sympathetic nervous system is about “fight and flight”
  • And your parasympathetic nervous system is “rest and digest”

These can get out of balance and I am sure you already know that when you are in and anxious state of fight and flight, you do not sleep as well and are much more prone to digestive issues.

That makes sense, doesn’t it?

And when you are anxious a deeper part of your brain called your amygdala, which is your “watch for danger” or “Uh-Oh” system, is over active protecting you.

The big problem is that this protective system evolved when the threats to life were less complicated:- cold, starvation and being eaten by something larger. Your modern threats do not need such a vigorous response in most cases.

If you were about to be eaten by a tiger, “rest and digest” is not helpful. In a threatening situation people often vomit or literally “get the sh*ts”.

In a normal peaceful life you know you need to get your ”rest and digest” system working if you are to stay healthy.

When you are anxious, stressed and especially when you are angry, you are not accessing the part of your brain responsible for thinking and controlling the situation.

There are things you can do to help yourself.

  • Stop for a moment and ask “What is running through my mind, when did it start and what triggered it now?”
  • It is a very big help to identify what is actually triggering your anxiety.
  • Then label it because labelling actually reduces your anxiety.
  • When something has a name, it is easier to manage because that thing running relentlessly though your mind is now longer amorphous.
  • Once you have a label, get up and put on the kettle, get a drink of water, go for a walk or do anything physical to distract yourself.
  • You may find that you can put the memory of the thing that is worrying you into a small screen video and make that picture smaller and further away from you. It is worth a try.
  • Once you have a label for a trigger you can think more about that trigger to work out if it is really about something else.
    The real trigger is often something that happened a long time ago so that the latest situation is really just reminding your unconscious mind of the earlier thing. So label that as well.

Your anxiety is using such a lot of your energy and you need to let that bad energy go so that it can transform into useful energy for your everyday life.

If none of these things work, give me a call. You will find that I am very good at helping you to know you are safe and you can get back to calm.

If the cost is a problem, talk to me about it because I do allow terms. And think of how you would react if you had something wrong with your car – you would work out how to fix it. So ask yourself why you put fixing your car above fixing your health and happiness.

 

Getting rid of PTSD is life giving!


Why is important

  • Why do you make your choices?
  • Why do you feel the way you do?
  • What is the why about your emotions?
  • So many questions…

Here is the big why for me. I grew up with PTSD from my earliest childhood and it became worse during 3 abusive marriages.

I was always good at hiding it and outwardly performing well but my anxiety levels, lack of sleep, nightmares, those thoughts that constantly ran through my head, the knot in my stomach and even suicidal thoughts were finally expressed when I developed breast cancer and had a double mastectomy.

It was time to stop and reassess my life.

As a teenager I wanted to do medicine but my father vetoed that idea… it was a waste of money for a daughter. I did science and majored in medical science, especially physiology and neurophysiology. I ended up teaching because it was the right hours and holidays for my kids when I was a single mother.

After I broke down with stress I went back to Uni. I spent 6 years doing research on the ecology of single celled marine algae using the microscopy skills from my first degree until my third husband dragged me out into the world of business.

When I had cancer it was time to think. I was on my own and able to choose so went back to my early fascination with our brains and out minds. I started studying NLP and hypnosis, followed by clinical hypnotherapy.

Then I met Judith Richards, a remarkable woman who cured her own physical and mental trauma using self hypnosis and developed this into The Richards Trauma Process (TRTP) which relieves, stress, anxiety, trauma, depression, PTSD and suicidal people gently and remarkably fast.

Stress, anxiety, trauma is all held in your body, not your brain and if it is not resolved you become ill. You need to work with your unconscious mind, not your logical brain to relieve it which is why skilled hypnosis is so powerful.

The TRTP hypnosis healed me and allowed me to be truly calm, knowing the past was over, for the first time in my life.

I enrolled in the next course Judith ran because I want to be able to give other people the same gift of feeling calm that I now have.

It is a joy and an honour to be able to help and to see the wonderful smile and hear the words “I feel different” when clients open their eyes.

It is totally life changing when people return to calm and feel safe.

Getting rid of PTSD is life giving!

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